Here’s what I know…Vacationing without your beau will tell you a lot.

Have you ever wondered if "absence makes the heart grow fonder" or "out of sight, out of mind" is the best adage to describe your feelings for your significant other?

Here’s what I know…

1. When you are traveling, if you keep thinking that you wish your beau could share thing after thing with you, you are into your beau.

2. However, when you are traveling, if you find yourself relieved to have the time apart and away from your beau, this should tell you something.

3. And, if you find that you have and are excited to have a wandering eye, this should tell you something.

4. And, if your phone calls and your emails to your beau are out of obligation not desire, this should tell you something.

5. And, if you find yourself wanting to stay away longer just to be away from the responsibilities of your relationship, this should tell you something.

6. And, if you find yourself having more fun with your flirtatious vacation fling than you have with your beau at home, this should tell you something.

Here's what I know... This is chemistry

Have you ever wondered what chemistry is and whether or not you are experiencing it with the person you are dating?

Here's what i know...

1. Chemistry is when you feel this involuntary need to touch or kiss the other person and you feel like you can't stop yourself from doing it.

2. Chemistry is when 4 hours passes and it feels like 15 minutes

3. Chemistry is when you eat food at a restaurant but you don't really remember if it was good or bad because you were more focused on the connection.

4. Chemistry is when you go home after seeing someone feeling like you took a drug because you are having a dopamine rush .

5. Chemistry is when you know deep down that this person might drive you crazy once in awhile, but will keep you interested for a lifetime.

6. Chemistry is when you just feel a pull to someone- a crazy feeling that you can't explain even when you don't think that person is right for you or even when you don't want to feel it.

7. Chemistry is not when you are not forcing conversation and trying to figure out activities to do with someone because you are fearful for that one on one time where you will have to admit that there is no real chemistry.

Check out the movie- Mr and Mrs Smith with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie- the chemistry there was crystal clear, so much so that he left his wife for it!

Here's what I know... Music is a good indicator of connection

Have you ever wondered if it matters that you and your beau have radically different music tastes?

Here's what I know...

(1) Connection can come from anything, but the more things you have in common, the more intense the relationship is going to be.

(2) Music can provide a really fun connection between two people, especially when you both feel comfortable enough to sing the words to the tunes outloud and off-key to each other!

(3) A good old-fashioned music concert with a band you both love is great foreplay!

(4) Even if he likes Led Zeppelin and you like Barry Manilow, but you both love Earth Wind and Fire and Fleetwood Mac, you have it made!

(5) If your music taste is not exactly the same, when you going on a trip in the car, you need to agree upfront that you will alternate music choices.

(6) Music is a hobby so it is not critical that you have the same taste in it, but it is important that you are open to exploring each other's taste.

Here's what I know... Sometimes it good to have no plans and see what can happen.

Have you ever noticed that the most fun you have is when you don't have any plans and things just happen?

Here's what I know...

(1) People in big cities are super busy so sometimes having plans on the fly works better.

(2) In today's day and age, playing "hard to get" is not necessarily a good thing if it stops you from doing something you might enjoy.

(3) Sometimes, being open to possibilities, can bring you a world of possibilities that you were not expecting.

(4) Sometimes when you are locked into too many plans, you will miss the forest between the trees.

(5) Sometimes it is better to be open for something new, rather than just planning the same old thing again and again.

(6) If you find yourself with a no plan night, take a chance and go somewhere you would never go and see what might unfold.

Here's what I know... Secrets about men

Do you ever wonder if men speak a secret language that we woman are just not privy to?

Here's what I know...

(1) Men and women think differently, they just do. You can't change this, you need to accept it.

(2) Men won't answer an email where you ask them a question until they have the answer to that question. This means that they won't even think to say, "checking on it, will get back to you." They simply assume you know this!

(3) Men don't need little flirty chitchat during the work day. This doesn't mean that they don't like it sometimes, but they don't need it, the way women do.

(4) Men have very short attention spans for your lonnnnggggg stories. You can count on maybe 6o seconds before their mind wonders to baseball stats or to check out the hot blond in the corner. Don't' be offended by this, just try to make your stories shorter.

(5) Men remember things in generalities. They remember that you are getting together on Saturday night, but they may not remember when they said they would call you to confirm the plan. All they know is that the plan is there and they expect you to know that as well.

(6) Men don't obsess about relationshipy things to 10 of their friends like you do. Hence, chances are, they have analyzed the situation from quite as many angles as you have. You can't be mad at them for this since they didn't have a team of advisors on the case!

Here's what I know... Summer is the perfect time for romance

Do you ever wonder what time of year is the best time for finding romance?

Here's what I know...

(1) Summer is the most optimal time to find romance.

(2) In the summertime, women are wearing sexy dresses that will lure the men.

(3) People are tan so they feel good about themselves.

(4) There are tons of outdoor activities that people can do to meet other people.

(5) People work out and focus more on their physique which lures the opposite sex.

(6) Everywhere you look, people are strolling hand in hand, laughing and kissing; this makes single people want to couple up.

Remember the movie Grease! Summer lovin'....

Here's what I know... Men like girls in dresses

Do you ever wonder what men really like girls to wear?

Here's what I know...

(1)Men like girls to look feminine and girly. A woman in a work pants suit is NOT going to get a guy's juices flowing as readily as a woman in a little spring dress.

(2) If you have time to go home after the office and before a date, do it. What you wear matters.

(3) Guys like color. This does not mean that you have to dress like Bozo the clown, but a little infusion of color makes you seem brighter and more carefree.

(4) Men don't really like black. Black from time to time is fine, but all the time is too Morticia -like and men don't care for it. Trust me, they tell me this ALL the time.

(5) Men like dresses. A man will notice the one girl in a dress who isn't as pretty as some of the other girls, just because she is in a dress and seems more feminine. Guys like this.

(6) Guys like sexy not sleazy. A hint of cleavage is good, the whole boob is not!

Here's what I know... Men need different things than a woman in a relationship

Do you ever wonder how it is possible that your guy needs something so different from what you need in your relationship?

Here's what I know...

(1) Men think big picture. They know you are having dinner together and that they are getting to see you, but they usually spend much time thinking about where.

(2) Men know when they like you and they don't need like sweet nothings and cute exchanges to be sure of their feelings the way women do.

(3) Men have about a 90 second attention span of a story. Keep the long ones for your girlfriends.

(4) Men focus more on what happens when you are together and they don't spend a lot of time thinking about the relationship when you are not together.

(5) Men don't spend time during the week, recounting cute stories about your date to their friends. The most they usually say is, "it was cool, she's hot, I like her, I am seeing her again"- the basics and that's all he needs.

(6) Men can be thinking positively about a woman without being in touch with her. It's like he has the comfort of knowing her likes you without the need to be in touch with you every second. This is a hard one to get used to.

Here's what I know... Signs he is into you

Do you ever wonder what are the real signs he is into you?

Here's what I know...

(1) If he ask you for plans at the end of a date with you, he is into you.

(2) If he wants you to meet his friends, he is into you.

(3) If he seeks your approval about things he could clearly decide upon on his own, he is into you.

(4) If he remembers little things you tell him when he so many things on his mind, he is into you.

(5) If he tries to please you at the expense of what is pleasing to himself, he is into you.

(6) If he makes time for you when he is clearly over-extended, he is into you.

Here's what I know... Sometimes it's better to stay home and recharge!

Have you ever just had the blahhs and just didn't feel like going out, even though you knew that you should make the effort??

Here's what I know...

(1) My grandmother always told me that if you get invited you go because you never know who you are going to meet, but she also told me that if you are in a bad mood, don't subject anybody else to it. As a single girl, you need to reconcile my grandmother's words of wisdom

(2) Sometimes you need a old fashioned night in where you take a bubble bath, watch a chick flick and polish your toenails.

(3) It's okay to pass on an invite that might just put you in a worse mood.

(4) Often times after you recharge your batteries, you might just find a revitalized interest in going out.

(5) If you push yourself to go out even when you really don't want to, make certain that you check your negative attitude at the door or at least have a glass of vino before you leave the house or what's the point of going out?

(6) People can tell when you are somewhere you don't want to be and this is unappealing.

And if you are looking for a great chick flick, don't forget, One Fine Day with Michelle Pfeiffer and George Clooney!

Here's what I know... What men like on a first date.

Do you ever wonder what you should and shouldn't do on a first date?

Here's what I know...

(1) Men like happy, smiling women. If you can't smile, don't go.

(2) Men like you to ask questions about them but nothing too probing, just light and fun.

(3) Men like girls who laugh at their jokes, so even if your guy isn't really funny, throw in a giggle every now and again.

(4) Guys like girls to flirt with their eyes. Try giving him a long stare eye to eye, it will captivate him.

(5) Guys don't like a girl who have 11 changes to her food order. It's okay to order dressing on the side, but other than that, suck it up. If you don't, he might give you a draconian kick to the curb!

(6) Guys like girls who say thank you after they pay the bill or as they are walking out of the restaurant; they want to feel appreciated.



Don't forget to check out the movie, How to Lose a Guy in 1o Days where Kate Hudson makes a lot of dating blunders!

Here's what I know... What men notice on a date.

Do you ever wonder what a guy notices on a date and what just goes over his head?

Here's what I know...

(1) He notices if you are nice to the waiter and he will like it if you are.

(2) He notices if you check your blackberry a half dozen times and/or takes unimportant calls during your time with him.

(3) He notices your energy- if you seem happy and if you have good, confident posture.

(4) He notices if you talk about yourself non-stop and never come up for air to ask about him.

(5) He notices if you are defensive about things in your life. If you feel particularly vulnerable or badly about the fact you lost your job, need to lose 15 pounds or have never been married, you need to come up with comfortable answers to those questions.

(6) He notices if you are fidgetting with your hair, looking around the room or picking your nails: these are all signs that you aren't really interested in him.



Don't forget to check out Yes, Man a funny dating movie!

Here's what I know...You need to have some basics if you are having a girl over to your home.

Do you ever wonder what are the girl staples you should have at your house if you are planning to have a girl over?

Here's what I know...

(1) You need to have something there that a woman would drink, i.e., wine or vodka, not just moonshine and Tequila!

(2) You need to have at least one morsel of food to offer. (Keep a box of crackers in your cabinet or a bag of pretzels, something you can offer her.

(3) You need to have real cutlery and real dishes. If you are out of college, eating only with paper and plastic just doesn't cut it!

(4) You need to have kneenex and napkins. A lady does not like to blow her nose with toilet paper, nor does she like to use papertowels as napkins.

(5) Women like mood music, so even if you don't, you should have some if you are trying to get her in the mood.

(6) Women like candles. Candles are easy to buy, they sell them everywhere, so its very easy for you to have a few on hand in your home. You don't want to go overboard with the stinky ones but the ones that are pretty and make her feel romantic are perfect!

Remember that Friends episode when Ross cooked for Rachel the first time??

Here's what I know... Men again.... bad topics for a date.

As a man, do you feel that you constantly say and do things on dates that you think are okay, only to realize later on that what you said or did was an absolute "no no"?

Here's what I know...

(1) Bad topic- your ex and how much you hate her. You don't want the new woman to worry that you will bad mouth her in the same way sometime in the future.

(2) Bad topic- your mother and how much you hate her. Women use how a man treats his mom as a barometer for how he will treat her.

(3) Bad date topic- your obsession with any sports team in particular. Women know men love sports and they are okay with that, but they tend to shy away from the obsessed type.

(4) Bad topic-how much money you lost in the stock market. Women want security. This does not mean they are gold diggers, they just want to believe that if they end up with you that they will have a roof over their head.

(5) Bad date topic- how anti-social you are. It's okay if you are not a social butterfly, but no girl wants to date someone with social issues.

(6) Bad date topic- how much money you have. Women like guys who are successful, but they hate braggarts.

Check out Rusty on the ABC Family drama, Greek. He could use some of this advice!

Here's what I know... The kiss is key.

Do you ever wonder just how important the kiss is when you are dating?

Here's what I know...

(1) If you have an excellent kiss together, chances are, sex will be really good as well.

(2) Kissing is the best foreplay especially if you both are very into it.

(3) Girls like to kiss more than guys do, so if he wants to kiss you and kiss you and kiss you, be confident that he is very attracted to you.

(4) Some people kiss well immediately and some people have to perfect their kiss. It's like dancing, you have to find your rhythm with each person.

(5) If you are kissing a slobber king, and you feel like you need a shower on your face after every kiss, in a nice way, show him how nice it is not to lick faces, show him other things that are just as good. Be patient with him especially if you like him.

((6) If you think that you and your guy kiss okay, but not great, or if you want your kiss to get even hotter than it already is, try kissing in a private, yet not so private place. The danger element will surely heat things up.



If you haven't seen Hitch with Will Smith, you should go rent it now! Hysterical!

Here's what I know... You need to be able to go with the flow when you are dating.

Do you ever wonder if a guy stopped seeing you because you just couldn't go with the flow?

Here's what I know...

(1) When you are dating, you need to be flexible about things.

(2) Plans change, and things come up, so you need to be able to figure out how to go with the flow without having a girl-fit.

(3) If you punish your guy for screwing up the perfect plan, you might wantt ask yourself who you are really punishing.

(4) Next time you are about to have a hissy-fit because things aren't going your way, think about an alternative plan that might work for both of you.

(5) If you indicate to your guy that you can't be flexible, ultimately he won't want to be with you because life is complicated enough without your being difficult.

(6) It might be a growing experience for you to try to just let things happen, whether or not they are part of your grand scheme plan. You might be surprised at how things turn out!

Elaine from Seinfeld had a "go with the flow" issue!

Here's what I know... When he will want to see you again...

Do you ever wonder what will make a guy want to see you again?

Here's what I know...

(1) If he goes home with a smile on his face about his evening with you, he will want to see you again.

(2) If you left him wanting more in the sexual category, he will want to see you again.

(3) If you were an excellent kisser, he will want to see you again.

(4) If you are a tiny bit mysterious and unattainable, he will want to see you again.

(5) If you have interesting things going on that he is fascinated by, he will want to see you again.

(6) If the date was fun and easy, he will want to see you again.

Remember Michael Douglas in The American President? He was skipping down the street because he felt so good about his date with Annette Benning

Here's what I know.. If you have a crush on one of your friends, go for it!

Do you have a friend that you have a little thing for, but you are nervous about crossing the line?

Here's what I know...

(1) Most women don't let their husbands be BFFs with another girl , so if you are afraid to cross the line because the two of you are soooo close, get over it, you won't be that close forever.

(2) You might be surprised that your friend has those same feelings for you.

(3) The best relationships start as friendships, so if you are that lucky to have a friend in your life that you are romantically attracted to, go for it!

(4) If you go for it, make sure you do it over a bottle of wine, it will be easier and it will give you a built-in excuse, if its a disaster!

(5) If you go for it, keep the talking about it to a minimum; talking with just scare you both off

(6) If you do talk about it, keep it relaxed and make sure you that you are reassuring to your friend that you can handle it, whatever the outcome, so that your friend will not resist out of fear of losing a friend.

Here's what I know... Bad topics for a man to bring up on a date.

Did you ever wonder as a man what topics are off limits on a first date?

Here's what I know...

(1) Bad date topic- the specifics of what you do on your "guy's nights out". This is better left to their imagination and better left between you and your buddies.

(2) Bad date topic- how much weight your ex gained. You don't want your date to think you are a shallow jerk who will leave her when she gets pregnant, even if you are that shallow jerk.

(3) Bad date topic- how hot and sexy your ex was. You don't want your date, who might be very confident about her looks to start to second guessing her looks because thinks you are still obsessed with your ex.

(4) Bad date topic-How you think that you are going to get fired. Girls need to believe that if they end up with you, there will be a roof over her head and food on the table for the kiddies.

(5) Bad topic- how much kinky sex you are into. Most women will go with the flow in the sex category, once they are into you, however you don't want to scare them off on the first date.

(6) Bad date topic- any weird cheapnesses you have. She doesn't need to hear that you don't keep the heat on in 10 degree weather or that you go to your mom's to watch Entourage so you don't have to pay for HBO; she will find this out soon enough, no need to burst her bubble right away.

Here's what I know... Women love confident men!

Have you ever wondered how confident is too confident when you are dating?

Here's what I know...

(1) Women love confident men!

(2) Women love take charge men.

(3) Women love men who make them feel like women!

(4) Women understand that you can't do the planning ALL the time, nor do they want you to do it all. However, women love the feel of a decision-making man. (Even if you are bad at decisions or a poor restaurant picker, in the beginning, a woman would rather you plan something than show up with no ideas and throw it to her!)

(5) Being confident is not about being bossy or being cocky or arrogant; none of those traits are appealing to women. Women are simply looking for a confident personality type and this comes from "your presence", your disposition and your attitude.

(6) April is the month of confident men, those Aries! So, girls if you love confident guys, find a guy who was born this month!